"I would seriously cut off my pinky toe for some alone time. Seriously. Even just TWO DAYS." I dramatically whine to my husband over the phone.
He's about half way through his work trip on the East Coast and he's homesick for his family.
I see him there, staying at a nice hotel in DC, and I'm not going to lie, I'm jealous.
He wakes up, works out, gets a coffee, heads to the conference where he discusses important things with important people (adult conversations!) and gets to eat a tasty dinner at a lively restaurant before bed.
Damn right I'm jealous!
I've been stuck in an endless cycle of feeding baby, changing diapers, picking up dog poop while trying to keep up with the house.
It's been over a month since I've been anywhere without my 9 month old.
Now here's where things get funny.
My husband, well, you see, he's jealous.
He misses his boys and his wife. He see's my snaps of our son trying to walk and talk. As we FaceTime Thomas George is learning to clap and giggles while I kiss his toes. I tell Tom how intense his son's determination is as he tries to swim in the pool and we laugh, Finn nuzzled on my lap.
All he wants is his family.
All I want is some space.
FREAKIN' LIFE RIGHT.
So it got me thinking about always wanting what we can't have, the whole grass is always greener thing.
I'll never forget a Tony Robbins video I watched years ago, I'll do my best to paraphrase, he said that the biggest source of unhappiness is being in one place (location or situation) and wanting to be somewhere else.
Oh goodness, I can be so guilty of this. For someone who has studied mindful living and who has spent hours on a Yoga mat, you think I'd have a better handle on it. Patience is not my strong point and it's something I'll be working on until the end of time.
And, yes, it's good to have dreams and direction for what you want out of life and of course there are certain situations that should be left promptly... but generally speaking, living outside of the now can surely rob you from being happy.
There's got to be a healthy balance and I suppose since I'm writing this post I should offer up some sort of advice but this is something I'm still figuring out. An answer that I'm still searching for.
Is the key to happiness presence or gratitude?
Is acceptance the answer?
Maybe it's.... perspective.
I'm not sure right now. All I do know is that all we can do is our best and we've just got to keep truckin' no matter what. We've got to be grateful for what we do have because when you stop to really think about it, it's a lot.